My Partner Does Not Want Me To Undergo a Facial Rejuvenation Surgery
10 October 2021 onur
I would not recommend you undergo a facial rejuvenation surgery without agreeing with your partner first.
This applies to both male and female candidates.
I want to meet the partners of my own patients before the surgery.
I prefer you come to our first meeting with your partner.
For patients who cannot come to the first meeting with their partners, I recommend that they come to the preoperative examination with their partners.
As a rule, we do not get any approval/permission from any patient’s partner, but the participation of the partners in the preoperative processes is important.
This is your face, and this is only your decision. However, we do not want anything that unnecessarily increases your stress levels in the pre-op and post-op periods. After all, facial rejuvenation surgeries bring their own psychological stress burden. You will probably need the support of your partner to go through this process comfortably.
The biggest reservation from partners about the surgery is that the familiar face of their partners will change significantly and look like a different person. The social reservations felt by the candidate are automatically felt by their partner as well.
These concerns are often followed by the typical question: “Why bother?”
None of the plastic surgery procedures is compulsory.
What is important in aesthetic surgeries is whether the patient will benefit from the procedure and whether this benefit is worth the time spent, financial resources and the risks of the surgery.
I can tell you whether you will benefit the procedure, but it is you and your partner to answer the remaining questions.
You should know that my happiest facial rejuvenation patients have always been those who already have happy relationships and present a high level of harmony with their partners. Plastic surgery does not solve relationship problems. If the partners’ interest in each other has diminished, you cannot change this with plastic surgery. You should not have an operation as a last resort just to save your marriage, and you should not decide to undergo surgery after ending a relationship, acting on your rage that your ex-partner will regret what they lost. I would not recommend you have surgery without your partner’s knowledge or while your partner is traveling. You should also not provide incomplete or misleading information to your partner about the operation you had. You should not ask me to do that, either.
I often recommend my patients, especially those who are emotionally weak (recently divorced, cheated on or chronically single), to reconsider their surgical decisions from an ethical point of view. I also do not operate on individuals who have mood swings. I never want to be the person who turns the patient’s emotional weakness into commercial gain. Therefore, although it is not my business, I would like to understand whether patients who say “My partner does not want me to have surgery” are going through such an emotional weakness.
If you are researching on and learning about facial rejuvenation surgeries, I recommend that you include your partner in the process from the very beginning. Read my blog together, come visit me together. Your partner can always reach out to me to ask questions “about their role” in the process. However, you should know that – ethically – I cannot share my patient’s information with third parties without my patient’s consent. Your partner or relatives cannot call me and have a private conversation “about you”.
Just care to remember sharing your surgery decision with the person you share your life with.
Take good care…
… of yourself and your beauty.